Take charge of your healing. You are not alone on this journey, but only you can do the work necessary for your own heart. These two simple techniques will turn that burning pain into amazing strength. You are stronger than you think!Read More
The narcissist’s amazing ability to be a victim leaves you with two roles in life. They see you as either the therapist or the enemy. In everyday life, you play these roles out in never-ending circles. Both are exhausting and set you up for failure.Read More
The covert narcissist plays out rejection, abandonment, and abuse in extremely discreet and manipulative ways. It is so hidden that it takes years to see, if you ever see it at all. As their victim, you feel beaten down and empty and don’t even know why. Open your eyes and break out of their game!Read More
I still have a long ways to go in the journey of healing, but I do feel that I am off to a great start. I will take this in baby steps. I feel motivation returning and eagerness to enjoy life again. I now begin the journey of the rest of my life!!
No matter where you are in this process, I desire to walk the journey with you. We may all go through it differently, but we ALL need support by our side. I had people I could lean on every step of the way. I feel blessed by that. I will be that support for anyone who needs a shoulder to lean on, an ear to listen, or a reassuring voice that you are not crazy.
If I can do this, so can you!!Read More
It is so easy to talk ourselves into staying in a painful and abusive relationship for way too long. Just because someone else may be in a worse situation than you does not mean that you shouldn’t tend to your own pain and get help.Read More
When our co-parent is abusing our children in any way, it is extremely easy to over-compensate by trying to erase all the bad feelings in our child. Our intentions are good. We know that those bad feelings are coming from the way they are being treated. So if we can erase those bad feelings, then maybe we can erase the damage they are suffering. However the results may not be quite what we hope for.Read More
When does a relationship with a narcissist get worse? When that narcissist decides that they must “fix” the relationship. When they decide to “take charge” of making things right. This is a disaster! This is emotional abuse at its best.Read More
Whether or not to file for divorce is absolutely the hardest decision I have ever had to make. I don’t wish it on anyone. I am so sorry if that is a decision that is looming for you too.Read More
Sometimes narcissists truly seem to want to be good and caring people. They want to be positive and supportive. Then why do they only give misery?Read More
Do I stay or do I leave? Do I file or do I wait? These are very tough questions. When you add kids to the equation, it is extremely complicated. The best advice I have is to listen to your heart. It already knows what to do.Read More
Narcissistic relationships are the most confusing things. The emotional roller coaster you find yourself on is unbelievable and crazy-making. At one point, this person was the love of your life. And you still see glimpses of that from time to time. Yet the abuse between those glimpses is devastating. Your heart feels like a ping pong ball ricocheting back and forth. In the midst of this chaos, please know that it is okay to have feelings for them and yet to still walk away!Read More
Narcissists absolutely hate for the other person to be right. Especially if that person is a spouse, significant other, parent or child. Use their own desire to always be right and to always prove you wrong against them. Anticipate their irrational reactions before they happen and call them out on it ahead of time.Read More
One of the best things that happened to me on this journey is the day that I truly realized that I can’t fix this broken relationship. It was extremely humbling and yet very freeing!Read More
Narcissists seem to have absolutely no emotional intelligence, inside themselves or with the world around them. They continuously stomp all over your feelings and don’t show an ounce of care about it. They can talk harshly and callously one minute and be confused as to why you don’t want to make love with them the very next minute. The confusion this creates is crazy-making!Read More