Covert narcissistic abuse is confusing, exhausting, and deeply isolating. This podcast is here to help you put words to what you’ve lived through, understand the patterns, and take real steps toward healing. Instead of scrolling through hundreds of episodes, use this page to find curated playlists based on what you’re facing right now—whether you’re still in the relationship, trying to leave, co-parenting, or learning how to reclaim your peace after the trauma.
Category 3: Circular Conversations, Gaslighting & Communication Traps
If you walk away from conversations more confused than when you started, these episodes are your lifeline. They unpack circular conversations, gaslighting, baiting, and cognitive dissonance.
Top Episodes:
Circular Conversations from Hell: Trapped in the Loop with a Covert Narcissist
Why every argument seems to go nowhere—and how you end up apologizing for things you didn’t do.8 Signs of a Circular Conversation, Part 1
A practical breakdown of key signs you’re in a circular conversation and why you feel like you’re “losing your mind.”8 Signs of a Circular Conversation, Part 2
More signs to watch for, plus strategies to protect yourself from these exhausting loops.What Is Cognitive Dissonance and What To Do About It
Understand why your brain argues with itself—“maybe it’s not that bad” vs. “this is destroying me”—and how to start untangling that conflict.Baiting Tactics of Covert Narcissists: Signs, Examples, and How to Respond
Learn how covert narcissists poke, prod, and provoke you—and how to stop taking the bait.
These episodes are for the moments when you start to wonder: Did they really apologize? Am I being too hard on them? We explore “backwards apologies,” weaponized guilt, and the difference between real remorse and image management.
Top Episodes:
Apologies from a Covert Narcissist
Why their “apologies” quickly turn into blaming you—and how to recognize the script.Beneath the Apology: Shame, Image, and the Illusion of Empathy (with Dr. Anthony Mazzella)
A deep dive into apologies that look caring on the surface but are really about self-protection and reputation.Guilt vs. Shame: The Emotional Crossroads That Defines Healing
Understanding the difference between “I did something wrong” and “I am something wrong”—and why survivors carry so much of the latter.The Effects of Projections and Expectations
How covert narcissists dump their own shame, fear, and anger onto you—and then hold you responsible for all of it.The Hidden Weight of Resentment in Covert Narcissistic Abuse
Exploring the quiet, heavy resentment that builds over time—and how acknowledging it is actually part of healing.