There were countless nights I sat on the couch in silence, staring into the quiet, trying to figure out why I couldn’t communicate with him.

I would replay conversations like a broken record, searching for the exact moment I must have gone wrong. Why couldn’t I find the right words? Why did everything I said get twisted? Why did nothing ever land the way I intended?

I told myself that next time would be different. Next time, I’d be calmer, more patient, more understanding. Next time, I’d explain it better.

But next time always ended the same.

You don’t have to know the term gaslighting to recognize the dizzying confusion of hearing, “I never said that.” You don’t have to understand circular conversations to feel the exhaustion of talking in circles until you’re the one apologizing.

For years, I lived with covert narcissistic abuse without knowing the vocabulary for it. I knew the feelings long before I knew the words—the constant tension of walking on eggshells, the pain of never getting it right, the mental knots of endless, unresolved conversations.

In my latest post, I’m breaking down these tactics—not as cold definitions, but as lived experiences—so you can finally put words to what you’ve been through and begin to reclaim your truth.

Baiting is one of the covert narcissist’s most toxic tools.
They provoke you just to watch you react—then claim you’re the problem. This blog post breaks down the signs of narcissistic baiting, why it works, and how to respond without giving away your power.

When you are with a covert narcissist, you are always the problem. No matter how carefully you speak or how much you give, the blame always finds its way back to you.

In this episode, we explore the impossible choices you are forced to make everyday…and the one healthy conversation you will never get. If you’re tired of apologizing for your existence, this one’s for you.

Leaving doesn’t start with a go bag. It starts with a whisper inside your mind that says, ‘This is not okay.’ Before anyone sees you leave on the outside, you’ve already begun to leave on the inside. This blog post explores why walking away from a covert narcissist is a slow, deliberate process—and why survivors deserve compassion every step of the way.

If you’re constantly adjusting your life just to avoid someone else’s bad mood, you’re not keeping the peace—you’re surviving emotional manipulation.

This blog post explores how covert narcissists use their moods to control everyone around them, why partners and families give in, and what it takes to break the cycle without losing your mind.

“He’s no longer in my life… but he still lives rent free in my head.”

If that sentence hits home, you’re not alone. Covert narcissistic abuse doesn’t always end when the relationship does — because the real damage often lives on in your thoughts, your self-doubt, and the voice in your head that still sounds a lot like them.

In this post, we’re talking about why that happens — and how to start reclaiming your mind, your peace, and your freedom.

When you confront a narcissist—even gently—you’re often met with emotional chaos. They either spiral into shame or lash out with blame. In this post, learn how to recognize these reactions, why they happen, and how to protect your peace in the aftermath.

“He stopped the lying. The gaslighting. The raging. So why does it still feel so bad?”

When the outward abuse ends, but the emotional disconnection remains, survivors are left in a fog of confusion and self-doubt. This post explores the unsettling dynamic where a covert narcissist—or anyone with deep emotional wounds—changes their behavior without doing the real healing.

If you’ve ever found yourself asking, “Is this really healing, or just damage control?”—you’re not imagining it.

Behavior management isn’t the same as growth. Silence isn’t the same as safety.

Let’s talk about what healing actually looks like—and how to trust yourself when it still doesn’t feel right.

Some birthdays you never forget—not because they were magical, but because they were devastating.

If you've ever walked away from a birthday dinner in tears, spent Christmas feeling like a burden, or watched your anniversary unravel into silence or sabotage, you’re not alone. When you're in a relationship with a covert narcissist, special occasions often become emotional battlegrounds.

And the pain? It sticks.

Why Do Covert Narcissists Ruin Holidays and Celebrations? For most people, birthdays, anniversaries, and holidays are about connection, love, and celebration. But for the covert narcissist, these events are threatening. Not because they don’t understand the significance—but because they aren’t the center of it.