When you're with a covert narcissist, you're always the problem. No matter how carefully you speak or how much you give, the blame always finds its way back to you.
In this episode, we explore the impossible choices you're forced to make every day—and the one healthy conversation you'll never get. If you're tired of apologizing for your existence, this one’s for you.

Leaving doesn’t start with a go bag. It starts with a whisper inside your mind that says, ‘This is not okay.’ Before anyone sees you leave on the outside, you’ve already begun to leave on the inside. This blog post explores why walking away from a covert narcissist is a slow, deliberate process—and why survivors deserve compassion every step of the way.

If you’re constantly adjusting your life just to avoid someone else’s bad mood, you’re not keeping the peace—you’re surviving emotional manipulation.

This blog post explores how covert narcissists use their moods to control everyone around them, why partners and families give in, and what it takes to break the cycle without losing your mind.

“He’s no longer in my life… but he still lives rent free in my head.”

If that sentence hits home, you’re not alone. Covert narcissistic abuse doesn’t always end when the relationship does — because the real damage often lives on in your thoughts, your self-doubt, and the voice in your head that still sounds a lot like them.

In this post, we’re talking about why that happens — and how to start reclaiming your mind, your peace, and your freedom.

When you confront a narcissist—even gently—you’re often met with emotional chaos. They either spiral into shame or lash out with blame. In this post, learn how to recognize these reactions, why they happen, and how to protect your peace in the aftermath.

“He stopped the lying. The gaslighting. The raging. So why does it still feel so bad?”

When the outward abuse ends, but the emotional disconnection remains, survivors are left in a fog of confusion and self-doubt. This post explores the unsettling dynamic where a covert narcissist—or anyone with deep emotional wounds—changes their behavior without doing the real healing.

If you’ve ever found yourself asking, “Is this really healing, or just damage control?”—you’re not imagining it.

Behavior management isn’t the same as growth. Silence isn’t the same as safety.

Let’s talk about what healing actually looks like—and how to trust yourself when it still doesn’t feel right.

Some birthdays you never forget—not because they were magical, but because they were devastating.

If you've ever walked away from a birthday dinner in tears, spent Christmas feeling like a burden, or watched your anniversary unravel into silence or sabotage, you’re not alone. When you're in a relationship with a covert narcissist, special occasions often become emotional battlegrounds.

And the pain? It sticks.

Why Do Covert Narcissists Ruin Holidays and Celebrations? For most people, birthdays, anniversaries, and holidays are about connection, love, and celebration. But for the covert narcissist, these events are threatening. Not because they don’t understand the significance—but because they aren’t the center of it.

We often think our struggles in relationships are about what’s happening now. We analyze the arguments, the silence, the panic, the pullbacks. We try to communicate better, set stronger boundaries, or “just let things go.” But what if the real issue isn’t on the main floor of your emotional house at all?

What if the problem is in the basement?

In this week’s episode of the Covert Narcissism Podcast, I explore how childhood trauma quietly sabotages adult relationships—not because you’re broken, but because you’re wired for survival.
Listen to the full episode here

How do you raise emotionally grounded, confident, self-aware kids when you’re still trying to navigate the wreckage of covert narcissistic abuse — or healing from it yourself?

If you’ve ever found yourself asking “How do I help my kids have the relationships I never got to have?”— you are not alone. And you're not failing. You're doing something incredibly brave.

This blog post is based on one of our most important podcast episodes to date. If you'd prefer to listen, you can find the full episode of the Covert Narcissism Podcast titled How to Raise Emotionally Healthy Kids Amidst Covert Narcissistic Abuse here.

You’re not addicted to them.
You’re addicted to the relief.

In a relationship with a covert narcissist, what looks like love is often something far more dangerous — trauma bonding. It’s a cycle of emotional highs and devastating lows, designed not to nurture connection, but to control it.

And if you've ever asked yourself why the bad moments keep getting worse, why you keep trying harder even when you're running on empty — this post is for you.